Mom Seduced Son

One of my sons has just turned 13. We got him a PlayStation Portable, loads of games and a pellet gun.

As a teenager, I knew that any time my father suggested we “go for a drive,” it really meant he wanted to talk about something serious. Over the years, I suffered countless agonizing father-son chats in his blue Pontiac Sunbird. The topics ranged from puberty and to my parents’ break-up to the suicide of our family dog, Brady—who killed himself by leaping down a flight of stairs.Why my father felt the need to talk about such unpleasantries when we were trapped inside a moving vehicle, I’ll never know.The one subject he never brought it up, however, was sex: All through middle school and high school I dreaded the day when he might suggest we go driving so he could lecture me on the specifics of procreation. I’d heard horror stories from friends about their parents giving them the sex talk. The worst came from my friend Chester, whose father used a hot dog, a bun, and a bottle of ketchup as props to demonstrate how babies were made.If Chester’s experience was any indication, I knew I was in trouble. I was living in California at the time, but flew back to Minnesota for my first Christmas at home in ages.

I try to avoid returning to the Midwest, particularly in the cold-weather months: Why would anyone willingly travel to a state that boasts 170 inches of snowfall a year, and an average winter temperature of 7°F? But I decided to break tradition, flying in on Christmas Eve and leaving three days later.After enduring a three-and-a-half hour flight wedged between two screaming babies, I landed in St.

Mother Seduced Son Story

Paul and my father picked me up at the gate. We hadn’t actually seen each in almost three years, and he looked older than I remembered: His hair was whiter and he had started wearing a hearing aid. People always talk about how fast their children grow up; the same can be said for parents.We were driving back to the house when he said: “Graham, there’s something I think we should talk about.”.

I turned my gaze towards the window. Rows of colorfully lit houses decorated the snowy streets; Christmas trees glistening from within. Outside, the world was bursting with holiday cheer. But inside, all I could feel was dread.Rather than argue with him, I said, “Okay, fine,” then braced myself for the worst.My father cleared his throat. I could tell he was nervous, which, in turn, made me nervous. I want to talk to you about”He hesitated.“Yeah?” I said.“Sex,” he replied.It took a moment for the words to register.“Um.

What about it?”“Not just sex,” my father continued, “but sexual responsibility.”My heart was palpitating and my mouth went dry. I had spent my entire adolescence dreading this very conversation and now, with me just three years shy of 30, it was finally happening. And at Christmas, of all times.“Sexual responsibility?” I asked, as I readjusted my seatbelt.“Yes,” my father said.

“It’s important to use condoms.”This cannot be happening right now, I thought.“You know,” my father continued, “to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, and things.”“No offense, Dad, but an unwanted pregnancy really isn’t on my list of concerns.”At this point, I suppose I should mention that I never formally came out to my parents. Mainly because I never considered myself in the closet—growing up, being gay was just a part of who I was; it was never something I tried to hide and most of the family figured it out pretty quickly. I assumed my father was among them.

I was wrong.I told you we weren’t very good at talking to each other.Back in the car, dad looked over at me from the driver’s seat: “I’m trying to have a serious conversation with you.”Claustrophobia started setting in. I cracked the window for a little air.“Look, I appreciate your concern,” I replied, “but I think I’ve got it figured out.”“Do you?” my father asked.“Do I what?” I replied, confused. “Have it figured out? Use condoms.”“Oh my god. Are you kidding me?”“Absolutely not,” my father scolded. “Sex isn’t a joke, Graham.

That’s what I’m trying to say.”I briefly contemplated telling him I was gay, just to clear the air. But I feared that might make the situation worse—or he might lose control of the car. All I wanted was to get back to the house, pour myself a giant glass of spiked eggnog and forget this whole conversation ever happened.“I realize that sex isn’t a joke,” I said, “but I’m 27 years old.”“What’s that got to do with anything?”“This conversation should have happened, like, a decade ago, Dad. It’s too late now.”My father’s brown eyes widened. What happened a decade ago?”“Jesus Christ,” I rolled my eyes. “Nothing happened a decade ago.

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Never mind.”I flipped on the radio and shifted in my seat to glower out the window, as I had so often as a sullen teenager. “Have a Holly Jolly Christmas” poured from the car’s speakers. I watched the houses go by as the music pervaded the vehicle, filling the space between my father and I that, with each passing year, seemed to grow ever wider.We spent the next 15 minutes or so in complete silence, the tension in the car almost palpable, before arriving back at the house, which looked smaller than I remembered.We spent the next four days pretending our conversation never happened. Maybe I should have taken a minute to tell my dad I’m gay and, yes, I practice safe sex. But when it comes to communication, it’s like my mother says: I am my father’s son. Although I sort of identify, I’m not sympathetic. Since Graham lives far away I suggest coming out in an email, or even an old-fashioned formal letter, if it’s that fucking difficult to come out.Or maybe Graham could wait until he’s 37, or 47 (if dad lives that long), and NEVER has a girlfriend, and maybe dad will figure it out!

You know, from all that “gay stuff” in the news. Come to think of it, a lot of Queerty commenters seem to do this. Their reports always seem sad and pointless and I don’t recommend this route.My father was a truly scary, terrifying individual, but if I’d still been in the closet to him at 27 (which I’m proud to say I was NOT!), and we had a conversation like the one described, I’m afraid I wouldn’t have been able to help cracking up laughing hysterically.

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– I’ve reread my comment #4 and I apologize for being too dismissive. I would like to say to Graham that it’s important to come out – if only because, for instance, they might find out by other means, or figure it out – so why not do it on YOUR terms? Agree that a Xmas visit is not ideal. Awkward.But I think Graham’s living far away makes it easier. (That was my situation too.) There’s nothing wrong with coming out in an email, if you don’t see them often anyway & think it’s too stressful to do in person. They can have time to collect their thoughts and reply.

In fact if they take a few days to reply that’s probably a good sign.